Is there brain science behind this?
I have been thinking about doing a video of what NOT to say to someone who has lost a person or even a pet. For example, "Oh you can get another dog. There are so many at the pound." Yes, and, grief for fur babies is REAL. Would you say to someone, "oh you can get a new grandma. There are so many at the old age home." NO! And yet, loss feels the same. OK, off the soap box. I occurred to me this morning, my least favorite thing told to me (old wound reopened when someone I haven't spoken to in over 6 years reached out and I had to mention Barry's passing) "Oh but you're so strong." Bull----. At that moment we feel weak and vulnerable. My thought, moving along a hypnosis/programming perspective is this; Widow fog is just another way of saying trance. And we are susceptible in trance. Is it possible our subconscious mind starts to believe we have to be strong and we don't ask for help? ( @eyeamterri , did you get this BS too when your hubby got the TBI?)
Also, is it possible that people around, even those who said "you are so strong" begin to believe that and don't give the person who has suffered a loss the support they normally would because, "you got this." Another one that makes me pissed. Am I just being a pissy widow? Or is there something behind this? Because I know the video would be more powerful saying something along the lines of, "it isn't just annoying. It is sending the wrong message to your unconscious mind."
Do some research and let us know what you find out! There's brain science behind everything that goes on in our minds, but what exactly is happening that makes you feel upset when you hear certain things, or what is going on with the people saying them that they think their comments are helpful - it's probably rather complicated. See what you find out on that front, though, and let's discuss! 😃